As I write this, it will be Mother’s Day tomorrow in the UK. Today Small and his Dad went shopping to choose me a gift and it got me thinking.
Being in a crowded shop is incredibly stressful and tiring for Small. The lights are too bright, people are jostling him and making noise, the tannoy hurts his ears, there are too many sights and sounds and smells.
As a result, Small avoids shops whenever possible. On a good day he might come in and sit on my lap in my wheelchair, or poke around a charity shop, but usually the suggestion that he come shopping is met with panic and tears. We don’t force him, because I believe that is counterproductive. I know that he can do it when he is in the right frame of mind and the motivation is great enough, but why cause such upset when I could just order online?
The reason I mention this is because it means even more to me that he went into at least one shop to choose gifts for me, because I know how hard it would have been for him. The fact that he gritted his teeth and tolerated all that sensory input just for me, is truly amazing.
I am a very lucky mum.